Hi Sohimi,

Last week, I rolled the sheets with my boyfriend, and I found that he was crying after sex. I didn’t take it seriously. I fell asleep when I was too tired. Then, it’s the day before yesterday, I found that he was crying again… I wondered if I was not so good, right? Should I cry if I want to cry? When asked what happened to him, he couldn’t tell it clearly, that is, he felt uncomfortable and wanted to cry…I was a little worried, he wouldn’t be depressed, right? But I don’t usually do anything. Recently, we just finished the sex and that’s it. Am I too good or too bad? I can’t help but think about it!

A girl with trouble

Hi Anonymous,

I’m sure that your boyfriend is not the first person who has encountered “Post-coital dysphoria” (PCD, also called post-coital depression, and it will also cause anxiety. The abbreviation PCD will be used in the following). In addition to men, many women will also have it with or within orgasm. Today, let’s talk about this “post-coital anxiety disorder”.

What is post-coital anxiety?

Anxiety disorder after sexual intercourse mainly refers to the feeling of anxiety, restlessness, and sadness after (consensual) sex. A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2015 showed that PCD is a broad term that refers to a variety of negative emotions including anxiety, excitement, crying, depression, and even aggression after intercourse. It usually occurs within five minutes to two hours after sex.

Just like some people will hug each other after sex, some will meditate (don’t know what to think, maybe just give up?), some will come to smoke, and some will have PCD.

In fact, PCD existed as early as the ancient Greek era. The great philosopher Aristotle once said: “All the animals will be melancholy after intercourse. (Post coitum omne animal triste est)”

Although I don’t know how Aristotle knew it, people just came to this conclusion. Current research shows that not all people have this disorder (it can be deduced that not all animals are depressed ), but Aristotle’s words at least show that this situation already existed in that era.

In 2018, a study surveyed approximately 1,200 men between the ages of 18 and 81 from 78 different countries. A 30-minute online survey was conducted on them. One of the questions asked whether they have experienced “unexplainable tears, sadness, or irritability after a mutually agreed sexual activity” in the past 4 weeks or ever.

The results show that about 41% of men have experienced PCD; about 20% of men have experienced this condition in the past 4 weeks; about 4% of men said they “experienced this condition most or all of the time “.

It should be noted that PCD occurs between men and women, and even the proportion of women appearing is higher than that of men.

In 2015, the “Journal of Sexual Medicine” published a research report on 230 female college students in Australia. Their age ranged from 18 to 55, with an average age of 26. The report showed that 46% of women said they had experienced PCD in the past; about 5% of women said they had had symptoms in the past month; about 2% of women reported “always” or “most of the time”.

From the above research, we can see that a large proportion of men and women have experienced PCD. Many people may feel baffled, at a loss, or even thinking when they experience PCD or their sexual partners' experience PCD. Don’t panic, let’s take a look at what caused them to have PCD.

What is the cause of PCD?

From a medical point of view, there is a saying that PCD is just a brief sense of loss after the pleasure of orgasm. From a sexology point of view, it may be because of the “refractory period” after male sexual intercourse is at work.

International Society of Sexual Medicine also provides some theoretical explanations:

1. It may be related to such close and in-depth contact with your partner during sexual intercourse, and the separation after the end destroys this intimacy;
2. The existence of this reaction may be related to past sexual abuse;
3. Conflicts in intimate relationships may also be a potential cause.

In addition, it may also be related to the changes in hormones. A variety of hormones such as dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins are produced during the same intercourse. The ups and downs of hormones may lead to changes in mood. Of course, recent psychological state/life pressure, etc., may also be an important factor leading to the appearance of PCD.

Someone asked why men have PCD, and most of the men’s answers are as follows:

1. Your partner does not care about your feelings, which makes people feel neglected;
2. Experienced a bad one-night stand;
3. Shame due to religious belief;
4. Feel the current relationship is not good.

How to deal with PCD?

First of all, we need to know that PCD is a relatively common situation, so we don’t need to pay extra attention or focus on it to not cause greater pressure on our partner or ourselves.

Secondly, we need to try to perceive it and try to describe what causes our PCD situation.

If it is because you have suffered sexual abuse, or have separation anxiety, and your intimacy is affected by PCD, you can consider psychological treatment or counseling.

If it’s because of hormones, then we won’t be a big problem when we recover afterward.

If it is because of excessive pressure recently or a problem in the intimate relationship, it is recommended that both parties communicate in time to actively relieve the pressure and be honest about the problem.

In general, the current understanding and research on PCD are not sufficient. At this stage, we only need to know that there is such a situation, face it squarely, but don’t pay too much attention, and treat it with peace of mind. If you or your partner experience anxiety, tears, anxiety, etc. So please don’t rush to get up and leave after sex. Hugging and chatting may help you know the reason and calm the current emotions.

Maybe people can try sex toys

If you are sad about real intercourse, why not try Sohimi sex products? Would it be better to use sex toy products instead of real intercourse?

The first product we recommend is Sohimi Eliza male masturbator, It will free man’s hands to explore more fun. This hands-free male masturbator has 5 different thrusting modes, and it was intense using this by getting rid of the boring single-mode, offering a variety of possibilities to satisfy every man. With a constant thrust, it brings a new dimension to masturbation. A fast charging, long battery life, great quality male masturbator that is also very easy to clean, this is the one you should buy.

The second product is Sohimi fake pussy which is designed like a real woman’s vagina, you can see the annular lines and salient points inside the sleeve, the realistic and sexy clitoris, like a secret lover waiting for your touch, creating stimulation stronger while putting it up and down. Made from high-quality silicone, this fake pussy is 100% body-safe and without smell, it is smooth, soft, and stretchy, you can run you at will. Moreover, the silicone part of this fake pussy is waterproof, so you can clean it thoroughly with water, and it’s also a good shower masturbator for you. The total length of the fake pussy is 8.77 inches and the insertion length is 7.67 inches. It is not too big, so you can easily hold it in your hand, but it’s big enough for your penis. What’s more, due to its suitable size, you can take it anywhere you like to go.

The third product is unlikely other penis rings, Sohimi FEDER penis massager provides extra pressure and amazing stimulation to your perineum with a taint teaser on the inside. Let the penis massager fits around your cock and balls tightly, stimulates your perineum with gentle pressure. When put on the button, your penis, balls, and perineum will be under pleasurable vibration, relax, and enjoy a wonderful time.

This penis massager with a taint teaser is made of high-quality soft silicone, safe and durable in use. Smooth silicone feels soft to the touch but firm enough to give you a delicious feeling of fullness. Moreover, it’s very stretchy, so this penis massager can fit perfectly on just about everyone.

Dear Wives,  

Have you keep catching your husband masturbating?

Do you have an hunch that he watched porn, but had no clue as to the frequency?

Have you ever found your husband's sex toy?

Is it normal for your man to masturbate when you're married?

……Or more.  

It's quite possible that your husband has a high sex drive and, for him, masturbating is a way to experience the physical release he craves. It's actually quite normal. Masturbation is a part of most people's sex life — even when they find themselves in a long-term relationship. And yes, that even includes marriage. Many people who are married continue to masturbate, enjoying both their partner's sexuality while continuing to enjoy their own as well. Men physiologically need to have a physical release and they feel actual pressure to ejaculate. For both women and men, masturbation is a normal and healthy part of life that helps with stress relief and feeling connected with your own body. 

Is that cheating? 

Cheating means breaking the rules. If you and your spouse agreed that solo masturbation are off limits, then doing so would be breaking your word to him, and he would understandably feel betrayed and lose at least some trust for you. Masturbation or masturbation with toys is NOT the same as sleeping with someone else. 

If you promised not to use sex toys, and you use sex toys, then you've broken a promise to your husband, and that's generally understood to be a Bad Thing. If you let him assume you're giving him his way, but you secretly don't, that's deceiving your husband, and that's generally understood to be a bad thing. The most honest and ethical option here is to communication, “I understand that you don't want me to use sex toys, but I really enjoy them. Can we talk about what's going on here? Why do you want me to avoid sex toys? How is that different from masturbating without accessories?” Get on the same page, and then you two can make your decisions. 

Is masturbation bad? 

Although it can be a little embarrasing to catch your partner during his masturbation, the frequency of his self-pleasure sessions shouldn't necessarily be cause for concern. 

We're raised, especially as women, to view masturbation as a shameful act, but in reality, masturbation has plenty of health benefits. In fact, as long as your husband's sessions don't become a substitute for your sex life, it really doesn't matter how often he's doing it. If you are happy with the frequency of the sex you're having together, the times he goes it solo shouldn't be a problem.

Most men still desire for alone time even if they got married or retired, especially if it involves porn, it doesn't mean that they don't always like the marriage sex, but enjoying the solo time. 

There is absolutely no reason to feel guilty for masturbating even though you are married or in a long-term relationship with your partner. You fall into a situation of low self-esteem, and the facts do most men and women do indeed continue to masturbate when they are in a relationship — it does not mean that there is anything wrong. And masturbating when you're in a long-term relationship is normal, just as normal as masturbating when you're not in a long-term relationship. 

The impact of masturbation in marriage 

As one example, a study of college students found those who masturbate frequently also engage in intercourse more frequently and have more sex partners. So while masturbation may indeed be a substitute for single people and those whose partners eschew sexual activity, it is also an integral behavior in the sexual repertoire for many who already have satisfying sex lives. The primary reason humans masturbate is pleasure, regardless of relationship status. 

Does this mean then that masturbation is never a concern in a relationship? If one's partner primarily meets his or her sexual needs through masturbation to the detriment of the relationship, it might be time to consider seeking help. Masturbation can support the sexual health of a relationship but should not completely take the place of shared sexual activity unless this is a pact both partners expressly agree upon.

Masturbation can be defined as sexual stimulation of one's own genital organs by hand or any simulator, in the absence of a sexual partner. There is no evidence that suggests that masturbation can have an impact on sex life with a partner, though it is believed otherwise . 

Support your spouse's solo time 

Communication is the basis for harmony in all relationships. As your closest person in life, so talk to him and encourage him if it is not bad on hurting anyone. There are many ways to express love. The easiest way is to buy a gift to tell him that he is the best or you love him. If your partner likes to be alone, then we will recommend several products, all of which have cheap prices but good quality.

The first gift is ELIZA. Eliza forever! It will free man's hands to explore more fun. This hands-free male masturbator has 5 different thrusting modes, and it was intense using this by getting rid of the boring single-mode, offering a variety of possibilities to satisfy every man. With a constant thrust, it brings a new dimension to masturbation. A fast charging, long battery life, great quality male masturbator that is also very easy to clean, this is the one you should buy.  

The inner gel is really soft and works well with its suction pump. You can adjust its modes easily according to your comfort. It's pretty straightforward use: lube up, stick it in, and hold down the power button to turn it on. More lube is another kind of experience. The different speeds make for a fun experience. It’s the best overall nice option to try out. 

The second gift is Sohimi fake pussy which is designed like a real woman's vagina, the annular lines and salient points inside the sleeve, the realistic and sexy clitoris, like a secret lover waiting for every touch, creating stronger stimulation while putting it up and down.  

Made from high-quality silicone, this fake pussy is 100% body-safe and without smell, it is smooth, soft, and stretchy. Moreover, the silicone part of this fake pussy is waterproof, so people can clean it thoroughly with water, and it's also a good shower masturbator. The total length of the fake pussy is 8.77 inches and the insertion length is 7.67 inches. It is not too big, and people can easily hold it in hand, but it's big enough for a penis. What's more, due to its suitable size, it can stay in the suitcase or travel bag with its owner. 

The third gift is ALICE, it might be the best choice compared with those masturbation toys providing fierce movement. 

It has a mind-blow sensation with 10 different rotating & thrusting modes. By moving up and down constantly, as well as the rotating motion,  a warm soft woman’s hand is wanking penis gently. Switch to the next mode, stronger and faster. Choose any one mode and just enjoy the amazing masturbation.

Dear Sohimi,

I’m a 45-year-old man who has a ten-year marriage now, but unluckily, my marriage sex doesn’t have too much pleasure for me. Every time I make love with my wife, our intercourse is smoothly without a hitch but I seldom get an orgasm from it. Through masturbating I could bring myself to orgasm within three minutes. However, through vaginal sex, it doesn’t happen at all and she has to finish me with oral sex or a hand job. I’m not sure what’s going on. My question is, knowing all this, how can I do? I’m starting to feel self-conscious and unattractive in addition to exhausted during the increasingly rare occasions that we do have sex. Please help me.

J.

Dear J.

Do not worry, we are here to help you. 

In modern society, it’s generally believed that some men have a strong physiological response to orgasm, which occurs with loud shouts and violent body movements. Others will have quieter ones. But the intensity of most men's orgasms may fall between these two extreme reflections.

For many males, the main source of pleasure in orgasm is powerful ejaculation. Long after ejaculation, some men continue to experience a strong feeling of orgasm. While other men experience orgasms with a similar pattern to women, but the intensity is several times that of women, and a series of orgasms with short intervals of less intensity are accompanied by ejaculation at the peak. 

There is also a stereotype that only women will encounter the problem of not having an orgasm during sex. In comparison, it is much more direct and easier for men to get happiness. However, the MSNBC website in the United States reports that: men are not as we imagined, which in the process of sex can reach orgasm every time.

American sexologist Brian Alexander pointed out in the report that some people can have an erection without difficulty during sex, and can last for a long time without being weak, but they cannot achieve orgasm or ejaculation, not to mention sexual pleasure. This is a sexual dysfunction disease as opposed to premature ejaculation, and improper handling may affect the relationship between couples. 

We have collected four ways to help you: 

Find Your G Spot 

Generally speaking, older men tend to have more control over the time of ejaculation. However, in order to prolong the time of intercourse, frequent use of diverting methods and this habit can eventually lead to non-ejaculation.

To find the man’s G-spot: prostate. Sohimi's product Prostate Stimulator is just such an excellent product. It not only stimulates the penis but also stimulates the prostate in men. No matter you are a beginner or experienced, it must be the best prostate toy for men.

In fact, men don't only have one G-spot, they have three! The first point is the "foreskin frenulum", a skin fold that connects the glans penis under the penis. The second point is the "perineum", which is located midway between the bottom of the scrotum and the anus. The third point is the most secret one: the "prostate", there is a chestnut-sized protrusion at five centimeters inside the anus.

Keep these three points in your mind! Stimulate the G-spot of these men from time to time when making love. If you and your wife are both interested and adventurous, you can explore and enhance the sexual pleasure of men together. 

Focus On Body Feelings

Orgasm edge technique, that is, to consciously delay the arrival of orgasm until the most perfect and strongest orgasm is achieved. When a man approaches 90% of the orgasm, he can stop, take a break, and then "sprint" again, his final orgasm will be even more intense.

Sometimes during sex, a man will distract himself unconsciously, such as thinking of how hot his female partner is, and recalling the most exciting pornographic film he has ever seen. If you want to achieve a stronger orgasm, you should focus on your physical feelings. Once you concentrate, you will find that your body's response will be very different. 

Go to try Sohimi's Eliza-Hands Free Male Masturbator. This hands-free male sex toy has 3 modes sexy female moans selected by you, the more intense the twitching, the louder the screaming, allowing you to enjoy a different sexual experience to reach ultimate orgasms. Make sure to use a water-based lubricant to achieve the best experience.

Learn Foreplay

Dr. Linda De Villers, a psychologist and sex therapist in Gary, suggests starting with a slow and sensual back rub. 

The position of a woman is useful because it helps a man restrain his urge to start pushing. A practical extension method is called the "extrusion technique". Just before orgasm, place your thumb on one side of the base of the penis, place the tips of your index and middle fingers on the other side, and squeeze.

Find the rhythm, and then slow down your breathing until it "resonates with the same frequency" as the thrusting action. When the orgasm is coming, you will find that your breathing begins to become rapid, but you still have to work hard to slow down your breathing, because this will make the penis get more blood flow and oxygen delivery, making the orgasm more intense. Go try Sohimi’s enlargement device. Don’t worry, this Sohimi’s penis enlargement device will help train your penis. It is the best penis pump on the market! It’s not only a penis enlarger but also makes the penis erection longer.

This penis enlargement device is intelligent pressure controlled. Just select a preferred pressure level, the penis enlargement device will increase or decrease to the nominal voltage without further manipulation. Compared with traditional erection pumps, this one could be the best penis pump which is so easy to operate. 

Ice Temptation

If you want to help a man let him embrace the stimulus again, using the SPA during the shower can also help. You can use the water flow from the showerhead to stimulate around the top and roots of the dragon. If you want to enhance the effect, you can use alternating heat and cold stimulation. At this time, all he needs is the temptation of ice power. The cream and jelly just taken out of the refrigerator are very good flirting babies. On the one hand, it can be used as a lubricant, on the other hand, it can satisfy the appetite, full of fun, and is most suitable for hot summer use. 

Talk With Her 

A male orgasm includes two stages. In stage one, sperm are drawn from the testicles and collected in a staging area below the prostate in the ejaculate. The second stage (starting a few seconds after ejaculation) is ejaculation. 

If possible, avoid disturbing the man’s attention at all stages. It is great to use techniques that you both know and love, but unexpectedly during orgasm, dramatic exercises are more distracting than distractions. No matter how long you are with your partner, you can have an open and honest conversation about the bed you like and the bed you don’t like, it’s never too late. A survey found that couples who openly talk about sex are getting closer and closer emotionally, and this intimacy translates into sexual desire.

For Penis

Imagine you rub your hands all over on the penis and the top of the penis. At the point when a man does this to himself, it is called masturbation. Masturbation is likewise called wanking or jerking off. A man is energized by a masturbation and may arrive at climax, which may be the most pleasurable thing on the planet.

• Play the porn or make other preparations.
• Hold your penis immovably yet tenderly in your grasp.
• Slide your hand all over on the penis and the top of the penis.
• Use your whole hand or just your thumb and a couple of fingers.
• Make a short or a long stroke.
• Slow, quick or quicker and quicker.
• Use salivation or lube while jerking off. A few men like it when it is elusive.
• Add a male masturbator into this game.

Most of us know that women can have "multiple orgasms." Sustained stimulation of the vagina or clitoris, either manual, oral or through intercourse, can sometimes bring on successive orgasms, often of growing intensity.

We also know that men can't really do this because after ejaculation there is a "refractory" period when our erection subsides. Some guys can have a couple in a row if they keep it upright through the refractory period. But, for the most part, we have to wait a while and start over. We'd be psyched if we had a handful of orgasms over a few hours.

In fact, men can also have multiple successive orgasms. This is called Male Multiple Orgasm (MMO). The key is to have an orgasm without ejaculating. This seems like a crazy idea, because we always think orgasm and ejaculation are the same things! But actually, they are not. Men can have "dry" or "non-ejaculatory" orgasms. These are not ejaculatory orgasms where in the last second the semen is halted. There is no ejaculatory reflex at all. Typically, your penis is left entirely unstimulated.

Not only can men have successive non-ejaculatory orgasms, but those orgasms can be extremely intense — more intense than your good old ejaculation. Some men may remember a time when they had the most intense orgasm of my life. Exceptionally strong ejaculatory orgasms may involve loud involuntary vocalizations and an overwhelming feeling of pleasure. Non-ejaculatory orgasms commonly have an intensity in that range. What's more, you can have a massive chain reaction of them for a half-hour, hour, or more.

It’s not greedy to want the most euphoric sex imaginable. 

For Anal

Except for your penis, don't forget your prostate which is called the “male G-spot”, there is your golden ticket to an intense and full-body experience on one of the male erogenous zones. An erogenous zone is a highly sensitive area of the body that may generate a sexual response when stimulated. So if you haven’t enjoyed it, now is the best time. 

Anal masturbation with fingers or anal plugs is also a way for some men to achieve orgasm. Since the anal muscles contract during orgasm, the presence of objects that keep the sphincter open can enhance the sensation of contraction and exacerbate orgasm. If have to make a distinction between anal sex and anal intercourse, whether use a penile for direct insertion is the main factor. We usually use anal intercourse to describe penile-anal penetration and anal sex for any form of anal sexual activity. Since there are a large number of nerve endings in the anal area, and stretching the anal sphincter when inserting the finger increases irritation, this practice may be pleasant. The prostate is a walnut-sized organ inside the rectum and just under the bladder. It wraps around the urethra, which is the tube that drains urine from the bladder. It tends to get larger with age, making it easier to locate.

To find the prostate, a person can insert a lubricated finger into the rectum, then push slightly on the front wall of the rectum. They may feel a slight bulge. It is recommended to use anal plug series from Sohimi with high-quality water-based lubricant to increase pleasure and facilitate insertion. 

You can start off slow by using one finger to gently rub the outside and inside of your anal opening, then insert your finger gradually to massage your prostate. Increase the speed and motion as the pleasure begins to build until you’re ready to finish. 

Anal play isn’t for every man, and I understand why you might be reticent to try it. It's still a bit taboo, and it can get a little messy. But if you're down to do butt stuff, you might discover the wonders of the prostate orgasm, and it's like no penile orgasm you've ever experienced.

For Nipples

There are many other changes in male masturbation techniques. Men may also rub or massage the glans, the rim of the glans, and the frenular delta. Some men place their hands directly on their penis during masturbation, while others may stroke their testicles, nipples, or other parts of the body with their free hands.

Nipples are erogenous zones to millions of people. And like any special patch of so-labeled skin, stimulated nipples to invoke wickedly erotic sensibilities. The exact feeling is hard to pin down: it's like floating, like fire, like flying, like high vibrations, like trees swaying in the breeze, like the perfect temperature of the water, like the best bubble bath. 

Having a nipple orgasm unfastened men. And they're not just for women, either. Studies show men can get off this way, too. It's not so far-fetched when you consider nipples have more than 800 nerve endings, release oxytocin when stimulated, and are the erogenous zones in closest proximity to the heart.  

Nipples are the sensual area, and strong stimulation to them during masturbation usually causes the penis to erect faster than otherwise. We would recommend Vibrating Dual Penis Ring. Compared with other Penis toys, it is not too tight or small, because it is adjustable. There is no need to worry about how to choose a suitable size. Everybody can use this adjustable penis massager, giving you strong stimulation and sexual pleasure. And this one can massage your nipples as you want. 

Some people may keep their hands still while pumping water with pelvic thrust to simulate the action of sexual intercourse. Some people may lie down in a prone position and rub their genitals with a bed sheet or other surface. This technique is called prone masturbation. Don't forget to try Penis Massager from Sohimi. It can massage male penis and stimulate the anus. Unlike other penis rings, this sex toy provides extra pressure and amazing stimulation to your perineum with a taint teaser on the inside. Let the penis massager fits around your cock and balls tightly, stimulates your perineum with gentle pressure. Your penis, balls and perineum will be under pleasurable vibration when put on the button, relax and enjoy the wonderful time. 

When taking a bath or shower, a man can direct water to his frenulum, testicles or perineum by holding the shower head. Don't worry, the above two cock rings are waterproof.  

Now let us have the conclusion for you:

Polishing

It's high-intensity continuous stimulation of the glans, achieving multiple orgasms and squirting effects. Pay attention to relaxation and do not suppress the urinary urge.

Edging

The word means "edge", which is to keep on the edge of the verge of orgasm through breathing, finger pressing, muscle control, stop stimulation, etc., to extend the period of time before ejaculation, so as to enjoy multiple orgasms. This method is unisex.

Stop stimulating the penis before orgasm, and relax the urethra and perineum. At this time, the semen will flow out instead of ejaculation, and refractory period will not occur.

Prostate orgasm

Stimulate the prostate and perineum to reach a super orgasm. During this period, semen may flow out, but it is not ejaculated, and there will be no refractory period.

The focus of prostate orgasm is also relaxation, and its highest state is Super-O, which is a dreamy and selfless ultimate orgasm.

It’s a stimulating, mystery and well-paid job with ups and downs online, but people agree benefits include being allowed to work from home whenever the mood takes you or anywhere in the world for that matter, maybe just not in public.

So today, to uncover the mystery of this profession, the daily work of male sex toy testers, we conducted an interesting and complete interview with a male tester, we have an interview with a male sex toy tester with his own story.

Can you tell us a little bit about you?

Yes. Sure. This is the most common question I’m been asked — maybe because this work is so damn cool, and all you open-minded people wondering how to get into it too.

When the pandemic Coronavirus hit, everyone was scared and I was no exception. I had hardly any savings. I realized that I had no skills and I got really poor, really fast. I went home to New Jersey and stayed with my parents, and it was terrible because we almost quarreled every day. Then I fled out to Austin and stayed on a friend’s couch for a while, which was an even more terrible idea because Austin was small and even more terrible to try to find a job.

I accidentally came into contact with sex toys under the leading of a friend. The first sex toy is Eliza-Hands Free Male Masturbator, you see, I still cannot forget it. Under pressure, I began to fall in love with this feeling of indulging in pleasing myself. I saw various sex toy testers on the Internet, and then I was thinking: why not What? So I started to prepare to be a sex toy tester.

You won’t be surprised to hear that I didn’t grow up with the dream of being a sex blogger. I also didn’t use toys as a teen, or even in college; it was only in this pandemic year that I realized that enjoying sex was OK — and more than just OK. Really good.

When I get involved in something, I get really involved. My interests in toys and masturbation became a passion, and I wanted to learn more and more about it. After the first product, I kept looking for better options for my body — that’s how I discovered body-safe sex toys and began reading review blogs. I thought I was on a great mission, and my mission was male-centric for all the males in the world as much as possible, on behalf of me.

Now I am a happily male sex blogger that loves sex toys and enjoys experiencing different styles of products to test and enjoy writing reviews to reveal the products.

I was nervous at first because I was sharing something intimate with total strangers on the internet. I also didn’t know what I was getting myself into, because it isn’t like sex blogging is a four-year degree plan. But I decided, my opinions are worth something and that'll be fun. That’s when I started writing reviews of toys I’d already owned.

It took me two days to set up the vanilla schemes of the site: choosing a theme, publishing a few posts, uploading photos, customizing and arranging menus, designing a sidebar, and more. But by the end of that weekend, I had a site that looked not too bad. LoL. I began signing up for affiliate programs and creating social media accounts so I could let other people know about my idea. The next week, I promoted my firmness guide on Twitter for the first time, and I was super-duper excited when I had my first follower!

Although the objective of reaching a climax is always the same, the technology to provoke an orgasm is constantly evolving. For example, batteries have almost become a thing of the past as these days, most sex toys are rechargeable.

They are also made from soft, body-safe materials and packaged in elegant boxes. Their features are also becoming increasingly complicated. There are even app-controlled toys that can be controlled by a partner on the other side of the world. I really like this job now because of the direction it is moving forward. It brings me not only countless orgasms but also bright hopes.

How many toys have you tested?

I have honestly lost count. Over the last years, I have tested over 200 sex toys — that’s a lot of orgasms, both alone and with ex-partners. It’s always fun to bring a one-night stand home and give them a good surprise. I’ll never get bored of testing them.

How to figure out a good toy?

What it comes down to really is — does it feel good? You don’t want something that’s going to make you feel numb with too strong a vibration or something that’s hard to maneuver. Personally, I am drawn to toys that have various settings and are easy to handle. I am always excited when a new product comes out in the market.

What is the process of testing a sex toy?

What I usually do is to take a rest at home, get the toy out of its packaging box, read the instructions and just start it. It’s really important for you to read the instructions, as you might miss out on an awesome setting that’ll make the experience better.

When it comes to evaluation, you should focus on stimulation and whether it hit the pleasure points in the correct ways. For example like an electric masturbator, you might want something which will massage and grip the penis head as this is the most sensitive point. If it is tight and textured and glides up and down the shaft simply — perfect. Personally, I prefer mid-vibration — nothing too intense as it numbs. A good way of testing a toy is seeing if it will bring you to orgasm without you having to pull it up and down like masturbation. I usually test a toy 2–3 times before deciding on it, as some days you can feel more sensitive than others.

Do they lose the appeal after a while?

No. I love using toys. I get bored of some after a while but I still have a large enough selection now to keep me occupied. I love pleasure and exploring new pleasure zones, so if there is a toy offering a new sensation or experience, I’m down for trying it.

Have sex toys decreased your sexual appetite?

I feel a lot of people are concerned that toys will decrease your appetite for humans, but for me, it’s not the case. If anything, it does the opposite as it educates you on pleasure points, spots, and even techniques that feel good. There are some things you can do with your mouth and fingers that no toy will ever manage — that’s the fun bit. I honestly believe the use of sex toys is fantastic for your sexual appetite and they are also fantastic for keeping sex exciting in long-term relationships.

Do you have some recommendations?

Apart from the mentioned sohimi product above, the second product I would like to recommend to everyone is Sohimi LG362 Blowjob Masturbator. This blowjob masturbator has multiple models for you by adjusting the pressure and speed of airbags, the size, and the tightness of the channel. So that you can get a unique experience from Sohimi blowjob masturbator.

You can get deep throat sucking and unlimited pleasure with these best male masturbation toys. It’s the best blowjob masturbator with Clamp and Vibration Technology. The pressure of airbags can make you feel like a hot girl is performing oral sex on you, and what’s more, it has a sexy female voice. The more intense you perform, the more passionate her voice becomes.

The third product I recommend to everyone is Sohimi FEDER Penis Massager. Unlikely other penis rings, Sohimi penis massager provides extra pressure and amazing stimulation to your perineum with a taint teaser on the inside. Let the penis massager fits around your cock and balls tightly, stimulates your perineum with gentle pressure. Your penis, balls and perineum will be under pleasurable vibration when put on the button, relax and enjoy the wonderful time.

This penis massager with a taint teaser is made of high-quality soft silicone, safe and durable in use. Smooth silicone feels soft to the touch but firm enough to give you a delicious feeling of fullness. Moreover, it’s very stretchy, so this penis massager can fit perfectly on just about everyone.

Not only for men to use this penis massager, but also used by single women or couples. Generally, the penis massager makes men erect longer and harder, but it also stimulates women’s clitoris while sending vibrations down men’s shaft.

Where is the future of sex toys?

Technology is changing a lot of things. It is used in every aspect of our lives making living more efficient, so naturally, sex and relationships are no exception. Technology changes culture, it creates a new language and whether you like it or not, it is already common practice to use technology to connect, feel and relate with others. Toys are becoming interactive with porn films, remote-controlled, Bluetooth controlled, etc., it’s really exciting. I would say the industry is getting a lot better for men, Sohimi is always bringing something exciting to the market and I love it.

The last trend I want to touch on is still emerging, but I think it’s going to quickly become the next big thing. Similar to how lingerie and bondage harnesses are becoming popular to wear in public or at the club, sex toys are becoming more discreetly integrated into our daily lives.

Sex should be fun, but it can also be complicated.

Vague sexual language communication is an important form of sexual communication. When people speak, the vibrations in the voice express emotions and can stimulate our imagination. The language includes not only words information, but also tone, and volume. Using language to convey sexual demands to the other party or to respond to the other’s sexual demands can elevate general emotional communication to a rational understanding.

Human love is different from animal love, and its important foundation is emotional communication by means of language communication. Due to the influence of cultural level and concepts, the use of language in sexual communication often has the characteristics of vagueness.

When a man and a woman are dating, the voice can act as a catalyst and aphrodisiac, and when a woman is affectionate, the voice will become softer. The voices of most women in love are charming, and the feeling and tone of talking to a lover are obviously different from usual, like adding honey to make men melt and excite. If the female voice can return to nature and softness, it is an invisible weapon to penetrate men.

Why Women Moan In Sex?

During sex, women sometimes make some moans on the bed. Through this sound, they can tell men about their sexual feelings. After hearing these sounds, men feel more sexually blessed. The most representative of this kind of voice was the voice of the old radio a long time ago. It is soft, light, and sweet, which makes men addicted. When sexual excitement and orgasm occur, the aphrodisiac calls made by men and women are also quite stimulating, especially for men.

There was a 28-year-old man who said: When I was having sex with my wife, I heard my wife’s voice. The more she called me, the more excited I was because her voice would make me think that I did something right to make her happy.

Another 30-year-old man confessed that the low voice of his wife during orgasm is very seductive and provocative. It can be said that the linguistic communication of the man in the foreplay is very important to the woman’s sexual excitement, while in the intimacy process, the woman’s voice has an aphrodisiac effect on the man’s sexual excitement.

Women’s voices during sex are different, but their meaning is similar, such as fast, I can’t stand it, don’t stop and wait, they will blurt out naturally without learning, and no doubt women all over the world share with the same language.

But the reason why women with a faster breathing rate can scream during sexual excitement is due to the obvious acceleration of breathing and heart rate, central nervous system excitement, which leads to increased blood pressure and accelerated aerobic metabolism. At this moment, the breathing rate can reach 40 breaths/min, the heart rate can increase to 120 beats/min, and the individual can reach 150 breaths/min-160 breaths/min. Due to the decrease in oxygen content in the blood, women will fall into a mild hypoxic state, accelerated breathing disorders, and will naturally emit a muffled cry characteristic of orgasm.

At the same time, due to the increase of excitatory substances in women’s brains, it will relieve the inhibitory effect on the brain, causing women to make calls that are unimaginable by themselves.

Most men like woman calls. Quite a lot of men and women will take an attitude of joy and use the size of the voice as the criterion for judging the level of female sexual excitement. Very few men do not like a woman’s moan.

Women’s 4 voices make men soft which is to say that men like these kinds of voices. If the female voice is natural and soft, it is an invisible weapon to penetrate men.

Blurred voices. This kind of voice, as well as the voice of the old radio a long time ago, is soft, soft, and sweet, which makes men addicted.

Sweet voices, sweet and fresh voices, will make men’s impetuous and perplexed hearts, get calm and calm, even indulge in them, forget everything.

Magnetic sound. Using this voice to interpret the feminine taste of women is like a glass of old wine.

Sexy voice. Sexy voice is a relatively vague concept, but there is one word in this voice: soft. And the softness is the key to sexiness.

The Sound Of Sex?

Voices can tip us off not just to how people look, but perhaps to their level of sexual activity as well. A 2004 study looked at the relationship between voice attractiveness and body dimensions. In men, an attractive voice was correlated with a higher shoulder-to-hip ratio (broad shoulders, narrow waist); in women, voice attractiveness was correlated with waist-to-hip ratio (waist narrower than hips). The authors speculate that because testosterone influences both voice and physical development, a man’s deep baritone can indicate more muscle mass and strength, and hence, greater genetic fitness. Likewise, estrogen and progesterone influence a woman’s voice as well as her body dimensions, which can indicate her reproductive status.

Since voice is correlated symmetrical proportions, which play a large role in attractiveness, it’s no surprise that a person’s voice also corresponds to her sexual activity. The study also found that men and women with more attractive-sounding voices reported having more sexual partners had their first sexual intercourse at a younger age and were more promiscuous.

Love is a place where sound is especially needed. When a man caresses a woman, he especially hopes that the woman will respond. If the woman does not respond, the man thinks that his caressing is unsuccessful and will lose interest in continuing to love. Such love can hardly reach its climax. In fact, the sense of hearing occupies an important position in the sexual process of enriching psychological content, and its main function is to stimulate the emotions of both parties through it. When expressing the feeling of sex, the voice has a special function, and it also brings many subtle meanings to it. Hearing is also particularly inspired when it accepts a variety of love voices. At this time, men love to listen to coquettish love words, and they also love to hear moans without exact words.

A psychologist once wrote: There is no better view in the world than a beautiful face, and there is no voice sweeter than the voice of love in the heart. The female voice with a special sentiment has an important influence on every intimacy and every one-time life. Like the singing of a nightingale, it fascinates men; it also encourages and admires men like applause. In the symphony of love, men are more engaged, and the sea of love is ups and downs… In short, both men and women have a full range of feelings about love, and the organs for feeling love are also diverse. It is not a single use of sexual organs, but a comprehensive combination of all aspects. It’s feelings.

Recommendations!

In today’s guide, there are five products worth recommending, and what they have in common is that they all have a charming voice. When you are enjoying masturbating, you are also surrounded by women.

Eliza-Hands Free Male Masturbator

This hands-free male sex toy has 3 modes sexy female moans selected by you, the more intense the twitching, the louder the screaming, allowing you to enjoy a different sexual experience to reach ultimate orgasms. Make sure to use a lubricant(water-based) to achieve the best experience.

Sohimi LG362 Blowjob Masturbator

In the Sohimi sex world, You can get deep throat sucking and unlimited pleasure with these best male masturbation toys. It’s the best blowjob masturbator with Clamp and Vibration Technology. The pressure of airbags can make you feel like a hot girl is performing oral sex on you, and what’s more, it has a sexy female voice. The more intense you perform, the more passionate her voice becomes.

Sohimi Thrusting Sex Toy Vibrating Cup

This handsfree masturbator is specially featured in 3 different girls’ moaning. The faster you thrust in, the louder her voice. It is feeling like different women are giving you oral sex, moaning, and enjoying under you.

Sohimi Realistic Pussy Masturbator

High-quality TPR material ensures high elasticity and extreme compactness. 100% harmless, safe to the human body, and friendly to the skin. It’s also 100% waterproof and easy to clean. Two attractive passages, lifelike and compact, different internal structures bring you different pleasures, soft brẹạsts can provide you with more ways to play and bring you unlimited fun.

You can use it in the bathroom, bedroom, and anywhere to relax for maximum comfort and pleasure. Easy to clean, simply wash with clean water before and after use.

Sohimi Auto Stroker Masturbator

Sohimi auto stroker is the best masturbator for men on the market. It has 10 rotating modes and 10 thrusting modes, giving you a variety of options to help you enjoy the various stimulations. The auto stroker will move up and down your cock, stimulating you with every stroke. Built-in special convex granules, just the right friction will enhance your pleasure. With other dildo, vibrators, penis ring, pocket pussy, this male auto stroker are your another collection.

A detachable cup is the best advantage of this auto stroker, you can take out the inner sleeve and clean it completely. First, you need to unscrew the upper cover, then put your finger into the cup, grab the groove, pull out the entire inner cup, and finally clean the inner sleeve and dry it. Do not wash the whole cup underwater.

Made of Eco-friendly silicone material, this auto stroker is so soft but full of granules, giving you the pleasure of friction to enhance the stimulation of your orgasm. And of course, using the right amount of lubricant can make it easier for you to get in, and it can also enhance the sense of pleasure.

 

Hesitation is normal when you first to buy a male masturbator when you face Alice and Eliza, because you don’t know whether Alice is your best baby or Eliza could satisfy you profoundly.