I’m A Man Who Can’t Orgasm Through Marriage Sex

Dear Sohimi,

I’m a 45-year-old man who has a ten-year marriage now, but unluckily, my marriage sex doesn’t have too much pleasure for me. Every time I make love with my wife, our intercourse is smoothly without a hitch but I seldom get an orgasm from it. Through masturbating I could bring myself to orgasm within three minutes. However, through vaginal sex, it doesn’t happen at all and she has to finish me with oral sex or a hand job. I’m not sure what’s going on. My question is, knowing all this, how can I do? I’m starting to feel self-conscious and unattractive in addition to exhausted during the increasingly rare occasions that we do have sex. Please help me.

J.

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Dear J.

Do not worry, we are here to help you. 

In modern society, it’s generally believed that some men have a strong physiological response to orgasm, which occurs with loud shouts and violent body movements. Others will have quieter ones. But the intensity of most men's orgasms may fall between these two extreme reflections.

For many males, the main source of pleasure in orgasm is powerful ejaculation. Long after ejaculation, some men continue to experience a strong feeling of orgasm. While other men experience orgasms with a similar pattern to women, but the intensity is several times that of women, and a series of orgasms with short intervals of less intensity are accompanied by ejaculation at the peak

There is also a stereotype that only women will encounter the problem of not having an orgasm during sex. In comparison, it is much more direct and easier for men to get happiness. However, the MSNBC website in the United States reports that: men are not as we imagined, which in the process of sex can reach orgasm every time.

American sexologist Brian Alexander pointed out in the report that some people can have an erection without difficulty during sex, and can last for a long time without being weak, but they cannot achieve orgasm or ejaculation, not to mention sexual pleasure. This is a sexual dysfunction disease as opposed to premature ejaculation, and improper handling may affect the relationship between couples. 

We have collected four ways to help you: 

Find Your G Spot 

Generally speaking, older men tend to have more control over the time of ejaculation. However, in order to prolong the time of intercourse, frequent use of diverting methods and this habit can eventually lead to non-ejaculation.

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In fact, men don't only have one G-spot, they have three! The first point is the "foreskin frenulum", a skin fold that connects the glans penis under the penis. The second point is the "perineum", which is located midway between the bottom of the scrotum and the anus. The third point is the most secret one: the "prostate", there is a chestnut-sized protrusion at five centimeters inside the anus.

Keep these three points in your mind! Stimulate the G-spot of these men from time to time when making love. If you and your wife are both interested and adventurous, you can explore and enhance the sexual pleasure of men together. 

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Focus On Body Feelings

Orgasm edge technique, that is, to consciously delay the arrival of orgasm until the most perfect and strongest orgasm is achieved. When a man approaches 90% of the orgasm, he can stop, take a break, and then "sprint" again, his final orgasm will be even more intense.

Sometimes during sex, a man will distract himself unconsciously, such as thinking of how hot his female partner is, and recalling the most exciting pornographic film he has ever seen. If you want to achieve a stronger orgasm, you should focus on your physical feelings. Once you concentrate, you will find that your body's response will be very different. 

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Learn Foreplay

Dr. Linda De Villers, a psychologist and sex therapist in Gary, suggests starting with a slow and sensual back rub. 

The position of a woman is useful because it helps a man restrain his urge to start pushing. A practical extension method is called the "extrusion technique". Just before orgasm, place your thumb on one side of the base of the penis, place the tips of your index and middle fingers on the other side, and squeeze.

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Find the rhythm, and then slow down your breathing until it "resonates with the same frequency" as the thrusting action. When the orgasm is coming, you will find that your breathing begins to become rapid, but you still have to work hard to slow down your breathing, because this will make the penis get more blood flow and oxygen delivery, making the orgasm more intense. Go try Sohimi’s enlargement device. Don’t worry, this Sohimi’s penis enlargement device will help train your penis. It is the best penis pump on the market! It’s not only a penis enlarger but also makes the penis erection longer.

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This penis enlargement device is intelligent pressure controlled. Just select a preferred pressure level, the penis enlargement device will increase or decrease to the nominal voltage without further manipulation. Compared with traditional erection pumps, this one could be the best penis pump which is so easy to operate. 

Ice Temptation

If you want to help a man let him embrace the stimulus again, using the SPA during the shower can also help. You can use the water flow from the showerhead to stimulate around the top and roots of the dragon. If you want to enhance the effect, you can use alternating heat and cold stimulation. At this time, all he needs is the temptation of ice power. The cream and jelly just taken out of the refrigerator are very good flirting babies. On the one hand, it can be used as a lubricant, on the other hand, it can satisfy the appetite, full of fun, and is most suitable for hot summer use. 

Talk With Her 

A male orgasm includes two stages. In stage one, sperm are drawn from the testicles and collected in a staging area below the prostate in the ejaculate. The second stage (starting a few seconds after ejaculation) is ejaculation. 

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If possible, avoid disturbing the man’s attention at all stages. It is great to use techniques that you both know and love, but unexpectedly during orgasm, dramatic exercises are more distracting than distractions. No matter how long you are with your partner, you can have an open and honest conversation about the bed you like and the bed you don’t like, it’s never too late. A survey found that couples who openly talk about sex are getting closer and closer emotionally, and this intimacy translates into sexual desire.

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