What is Edging?
Edging is a sexual technique in which a person brings themselves or their partner close to the point of orgasm, then deliberately stops or slows stimulation to delay climax. This is often repeated several times before finally allowing orgasm, resulting in heightened sexual tension and an intensified release.
How does Edging Feel?
For six years, I was trapped in a custom chastity cage, and edging with male masturbators was the only way I could have sex for months at a time. I came to the point where I would rather be edged for an hour than have a 10-second orgasm and then suffer the depression that comes after it. I try to explain edging by saying that it's like the feeling you get when you reach the top of a roller coaster and start to fall and lose G's. The journey down the top of the mountain is an orgasm. I like the first feeling better than the ride down the mountain.
I once came and had an orgasm just by thinking about it. No physical or visual stimuli at all, just gathering positive energy all over my body and sending it to my cock. In other words, I was manifesting or picturing pleasure while I was very relaxed. The edging for this was different; it was more like riding a long wave or feeling a wave slowly pulling away. I came pretty strongly, and it was a full-body orgasm that was really spiritual. As a guy, I've never had one like that or believed it was typical.
Why is Edging So Amazing?
Mental Reasons: Have a Longer Orgasm and Learn Your Limit
There are two main reasons to edge. The first is that when you finally decide to finish, the orgasm is longer and stronger because sexual tension builds over time. The second is that you (and your partner) can have more fun while learning boundaries and what stimulation works for you. Many people report stronger contractions and a brief loss of control during climax. With edging, you can stay aroused longer without stopping the play. This may also be healthy for the prostate.
Physical Reasons: Inhibit the Prolactin and Increase Your Dopamine
You don’t get the same prolactin surge when you hold off climax, which is associated with satiation and a temporary drop in motivation. Dopamine—the “feel-good” neurotransmitter—often spikes in anticipation of reward more than at receipt. By edging without orgasming, you can leverage this anticipation loop to feel good longer before signaling to the body that the session is “complete.”
How to Achieve Edging?
Divert Your Attention
It’s straightforward: stop stimulation when you’re about to ejaculate, let arousal subside, then start again. Repeat multiple start/stop cycles—take short breaks (drink water, wash your face), then resume. Eventually, when you do let go, be prepared for a stronger orgasm.
Change the Stimulus
With a partner, agree on a signal for breaks. Vary positions or intensity when nearing climax. Swap activities (e.g., from penetrative to manual/oral stimulation, or try a male masturbator). Start with a few cycles and add more as you go. During pauses, sensual massage can keep connection high. More cycles increase pelvic blood flow and may intensify orgasms.
