Squirting has long been viewed as the hallmark of female orgasm, creating invisible pressure for many women and their partners. In reality, it is a normal physiological phenomenon experienced by some, and is not necessarily linked to achieving a 'real' orgasm. However, with training, the right mindset, and precise techniques, it is a potential many can unlock.
If you’ve ever wondered if you are doing it right, or why some partners squirt while others don’t, you aren’t alone. Join us now to learn how!
What is Squirting?
Before we dive into the "how-to," we need to understand what is actually happening inside the body. Many people confuse squirting with urinating, but professionals know there is a distinct biological process at play.
The Anatomy of the Squirt
Squirting involves a specific pair of glands known as the Skene’s glands. These small structures surround the urethra and are often referred to as the "female prostate". When a woman becomes highly aroused, these glands fill with fluid.
When the right pressure builds up through orgasmic contractions, this fluid is expelled—or squirted—out through the urethra. Interestingly, the fluid produced by the Skene's glands is chemically similar to male prostatic fluid, distinct from urine.
Why Can Some Women Squirt and Others Can't?
According to Dr. Rachel Ross, the ability to squirt often boils down to four main factors: anatomy, arousal, muscle coordination, and mental state.
· Anatomy: The size and capacity of the Skene's glands vary from woman to woman.
· Prevalence: In a survey of over 1,200 women, about 40% reported experiencing ejaculation. This suggests that a significant portion of women have the potential to squirt if the conditions are right.
The biggest takeaway? Squirting requires an "extremely intense buildup followed by that letting go". If she can orgasm, she likely has the potential to squirt.
How to Find the Right Spot
Finding the "magic button" is where most beginners get it wrong. They often treat the G-spot like a button to be mashed, but pros understand that the anatomy is complex.
Most people think the clitoris is just the small pearl visible on the outside, but that is like looking at the tip of an iceberg. The clitoris is actually a massive structure that wraps around the vaginal canal like a wishbone.
The spot you are looking for—the G-spot—is located on the upper wall of the vagina (the "roof"), about two to three inches inside. This area is essentially the internal arms of the clitoris. When she is aroused, this tissue swells, and the Skene's glands engorge, making the area feel textured or "spongy".
The Setup: Angle is Everything
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You cannot just jab straight in. To hit the G-spot effectively, you need to angle your stimulation upward.
The Pillow Trick
A pro strategy is to place a pillow under her hips while she is on her back. This elevates her pelvis, allowing your fingers, toy, or penis to naturally glide along the upper wall rather than hitting the back of the canal.
The Motion
Instead of thrusting in and out, think of a "scooping" motion. You want to make gliding contact with the roof of the vaginal canal, applying pressure upward towards her belly button.
Speed Up
The heading “speed up” is a bit of a trick. While you do need intensity, rushing is the enemy of squirting. Dr. Ross compares the process to bringing water to a boil—you have to let it simmer before it bubbles.
The "Slow Burn" Technique
Beginners often rush in with speed, thinking fast friction is the key. However, for a woman to squirt, she must feel safe, open, and relaxed enough to surrender.
Start Slow
Begin with a slow burn. Let the warmth spread and gradually turn up the heat.
Consistency is King
Once you find the rhythm and spot that makes her hips tilt or her breathing change, do not change it.
The Climax
When she gets close—when her muscles clench and she is breathing in waves—this is actually when you should lock in your pace rather than frantically speeding up. Keep the angle, depth, and pressure exactly the same. This steady, intense pressure is what forces the release.
Avoid the "Jackrabbit"
One of the most common mistakes is the "jackrabbit" strategy—thrusting straight in and out as fast as possible. This often misses the G-spot entirely. Instead, focus on rhythmic, controlled movements at about half-depth, ensuring you hit that internal G-spot every single time.
Use Sex Toys
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Because squirting requires consistent, repetitive pressure on a specific internal spot, human hands (and penises) can sometimes get tired or lose the angle. This is where toys can be game-changers.
Why Toys Work
Squirting can be achieved with fingers, a penis, or toys. Toys, especially curved G-spot vibrators or dildos, are designed to maintain that crucial upward curve that targets the Skene’s glands constantly.
Combining Sensations
Remember, the G-spot is connected to the clitoris. You can enhance the likelihood of squirting by using a toy internally while maintaining rhythmic stimulation on the external clitoris and the mons pubis (the fleshy mound where pubic hair grows). Stimulating both areas simultaneously causes the G-spot to swell and the sensitivity to skyrocket.
Don't Forget to "Pull Out" (The Scooping Motion)
In the context of squirting, "pulling out" doesn't mean leaving the game—it refers to the specific withdrawal technique that maximizes stimulation.
The "Come Hither" Motion. If you are using your fingers, the most effective move is often described as the "come hither" gesture. You insert your fingers (palm up), hook them upward, and pull back slightly against the front wall of the vagina.
Glide, Don't Jab. You aren't trying to go deep; you are trying to move upwards. The goal is to "scoop" her from the inside.
Rhythmic Withdrawal. The sensation is often strongest not when you push in, but when you drag or glide along the swollen G-spot tissue. This rhythmic pressure against the urethra and Skene's glands is what triggers the expulsion of fluid.
The Mental Release. Finally, the "pull out" concept applies mentally. She needs to "pull out" of her head and let go of control. Squirting requires a massive mental surrender. If she feels the urge to urinate, she must be encouraged to push it out rather than hold it in. That urge is the signal that the Skene's glands are full and ready to release.
FAQs
Q: Is squirting just pee?
A: No. While it passes through the urethra, the fluid comes from the Skene's glands and is chemically similar to prostatic fluid. However, because the bladder is nearby, some urine may mix in, but the "squirt" itself is a distinct biological event.
Q: Can every woman squirt?
A: Anatomy varies. The size of the Skene's glands differs between women. However, surveys suggest around 40% of women have experienced it, and in principle, any woman who can orgasm has the potential machinery to squirt.
Q: Why does she feel like she needs to pee right before squirting?
A: This is the most common reason women stop themselves. The swelling of the G-spot puts pressure on the urethra. If she feels that urge, it’s actually a good sign—it means she is close! Encourage her to relax and let go.
Q: Does technique matter more than size?
A: Yes. "Pros" know that angle and depth are the entire game. Hitting the G-spot requires an upward angle (toward the belly button) rather than deep thrusting. Using a pillow under the hips can make a massive difference in hitting this angle.
Q: What is the biggest blockage to squirting?
A: Often, it is the mind. A woman must feel safe and trusted to lose control. If she is worried about making a mess or "peeing," she will unconsciously clench her pelvic floor muscles, blocking the release. Building an atmosphere of trust is 50% of the work.
