Do women really need sex toys?
Every day, there are over thousands of customers visiting Sohimi’s website. However, only 20% of the visitors are female.
Many girls worry about a lot of problems when buying sex toys, a large part of the reason may be that they subconsciously feel ashamed of using sex toy, or sex toy is always inferior to the real person, and some people even worry that they will become addicted after using it.
By communicating with some friends, I found that the process of everyone’s exposure to sex toys is actually a process of continuous “evolution”, including the acceptance of toys, their changes of their own thoughts and concepts.
Some people slowly unlocked the happiness on sex toys; some people were entangled and confused, and then found the answer; some people are open about sex life, they have been very firm, and live wantonly and calm.
Regardless of whether they are suitable or not, whether they need or don’t need sex toys, they have learned their true thoughts and learned to tell their own needs in the process of searching, expressing and persisting.
01 Anonymous User 20-Year-Old I’m still exploring...
A few days ago, I received a gift from a big sister, a very cute girl’s toy. When I saw it at the time, I had an idea in my mind that this little thing seems a bit too...
But I didn't expect that I took it out again after putting it aside for some time. In an unintentional groping, I experienced the wonderful fun brought by this tiny toy. How to describe the feeling? Although not as strong as in the legend, but the body was suddenly awakened, fierce and gentle.
At the beginning, I was worried about addiction. I felt that if I had too much desire, I would always want it in the future, and if I would become insensitive after using toys? If men would not be able to satisfy me?
But I found that this is not the case. My sex desire has not changed much. It's just that I can only pinch my legs or toss when I have the desires before, but I can use toys to satisfy myself and relax.
I have had a boyfriend, I found that having a skin-to-skin intimate contact with a person I like is emotional integration, and the double joy of physical and psychological satisfaction cannot be given by a small toy.
Later, I also had more awareness and opportunities to take the initiative to learn knowledge of this aspect, such as the whole physiological process of arousal, the pleasure switch in the female body, and how to love myself.
Slowly, I also bought some new toys for me. I was amazed by the different styles, which gave me a lot of different feelings. Even though some toys may no longer be used now, I will still collect them carefully and record them as precious specimens.
For me now, the important thing is not how many toys I own, but being able to get to know myself from more aspects, enjoying this journey of free exploration and discovery.
02 Anonymous User 27-Year-Old Do I have a strong Desire on Sex?
Although I don’t spend much time with my partner every week, we have sex three or four times a week at least. However, I want some "fast-food sex" sometimes, which is to arouse quickly, to end quickly, and be satisfied. Because it is still tiring to go to work, and most of the time we both don’t have the time and energy to satisfy each other, but using toys will relax and satisfy ourselves easily and quickly.
When masturbating myself, I need only six to seven seconds to reach the top. My body is out-of-control and I can't help but clamp my legs, gasp in a low voice, and enjoy the joy of complete satisfaction.
My partner knows that I use toy, but I have never used them in front of him, because I still can’t let go when he’s there, and cannot explore, moan, relax, and give up expression management.
On the one hand, I don’t want him to feel that my desire is too strong, and I will still feel a little ashamed. On the other hand, I am worried that I look too ugly when I reach the top. He understood me so well that he would wait for me to finish before coming in every time. Maybe one day I can handle these contradictions, find a way that suits me. So just explore it step by step.
03 Anonymous User 29-Year-Old We’ll use the toys together
I have a boyfriend, but I am also using small toys at the same time. He knows it. Fortunately, the two of us have reached an agreement on this aspect. We believe that a partner and a sex toy never stand on opposite sides.
At the beginning, I was a little worried. While he was in the living room, I pretended to go back to the room to rest, in fact, quietly comforting myself.
Later, I simply performed it next to him, but when he saw me using a small toy, he became a little excited and couldn't help but kiss me and touch me, and then actively joined in. I found that after using toys, I became more sensitive, but his participant gave me a completely different new experience.
Later on, we often played in this way. I used toy as a foreplay before he joined in, the pleasure was so intense that I pulled the sheets crazily. We often reach the peak at the same time, reaping great satisfaction.
Therefore, it will not affect the intimate relationship no matter who uses small toys if the two people are working together. On the contrary, when we try new possibilities, life will become more ritual.
04 Anonymous User 34-Year-Old I regained the long-lost happiness After getting married
After two years of marriage, I bought myself a small toy. Compared to real people, I like toys better, it’s mainly because I like the feeling of being in control. In most cases, no one knows what you want better than you.
My husband is a traditional man. Although he will take care of my feelings in that respect, he can’t find out the feelings and can’t give me more surprises. As time goes by, the passion and romance become less and less, I think it’s a little unlikely for him to be enthusiastic.
Once I heard my friends were talking about sex toys, I was curious and quietly bought an entry-level one. After a simple groping on my body, I found clitoris, pinched and sucked it with a clitoral vibrator, my long-lost happiness finally came back.
He hasn't found out yet, maybe one day, my husband will accept me using small toys, or maybe I don't need toys anymore by that time. I think it’s worthwhile to enjoy all the good things now.
Of course, there are still many exciting and interesting stories in the process of exploring sex. These stories may not be important to others, but you can truly feel that enjoying being yourself is a very beautiful thing.
Everyone can hold their own ideas on whether to use toys or not, and we are warm welcome you to discuss with us in the message area.