Tired of old-school position like missionary? Wanna try something new that spice things up? Sex toys are definitely good tools to arouse passion while you can try many types with your partner. But I can’t forget to mention a strap-on — a wearable dildo for any genders.
What is a strap on
A strap-on (also known as a strap-on dildo) is a wearable sex toy that typically includes a harness paired with a dildo. Strap-ons come in a variety of styles and can be enjoyed by anyone, regardless of gender or sexuality. They’re versatile enough for vaginal or anal play, pegging, and even solo exploration.
Why use a strap-on
Far from being a niche toy, a strap-on opens the door to a broader range of intimacy, pleasure, and connection between partners. Whether you’re trying for the first time or looking to expand your sexual experience, a strap-on can bring something novel and empowering into the bedroom.
Most people would probably assume only lesbians use strap-ons. And lesbians certainly deserve their due, but they aren’t the only ones who wear strap-ons. Strap-ons are becoming more common in heterosexuality nowadays thanks to a sexual act called pegging. Pegging is a person without a penis penetrates their partner’s anus using a strap-on. Prostate stimulation offers immense pleasure for men. Straight men can enjoy prostate orgasms too, and this experience doesn’t define their sexuality or their masculinity. So ladies, don’t hesitate to take the lead.
And of course, there’s other fun factors. Many couples use strap-ons simply because they offer new possibilities in bed. A different size, shape, or texture can help you discover sensations that you’ve never experienced before. With the right lube and a comfortable harness, the experience can be incredibly smooth, intense, and satisfying.
Ultimately, using a strap-on isn’t about replacing anything—it’s about expanding what pleasure can look like. Whether you’re exploring curiosity, enhancing intimacy, or trying a new fantasy, a strap-on is a versatile and powerful tool that can enrich your sexual journey in ways you might not expect.
How to choose the right one
A beginner strap-on set consists of a dildo of your choosing and a set of harness. Many straps feature an O-ring on the crotch that can hold a wide array of phallic implements.
Harnesses
Whist strap: This is the most basic form. One strap goes around the wearer's waist, like a belt, while the others (two or three) goes between the wearer's legs and connects to the other strap in the middle at the lower back or around the thigh.
Thigh strap: This option is ideal for those who already have some hardware of their own that would get in the way of a crotch-oriented strap-on. The strap wraps around your thigh so your partner can take a bumpy ride on your lap.
Underwear-style: It’s a underwear with a O connector base, which is more convenient to put on and take off. This style is best for all-day wear but works equally well for sex.
Double-sided style: It has a double sided dildo so both partners can be penetrated.
Dildos
It’s better to consider the penetrated one’s opinion. It’s non-negotiate that the material should also be safe and comfortable. We recommend premium body-safe silicone or stainless steal.
Before using it, you should try on the harness in advance and make sure it doesn’t feel too loose or too tight. If it’s too loose, the dildo may shift out of place; if it’s too tight, it can restrict blood flow. You and your partner can adjust it repeatedly to find the most comfortable angle and avoid any risk of injury.
UricaGuard2 is our best designed strap-on. The strap is easy to put on and take off while staying secure will make your play much smoother. Premium silicone realistic dildo provide a ultimate sensation. You can even add a vibrator below the dildo, so both of partners will gain so much fun.
Preparation
Before diving into a strap-on, a full preparation can build a smoother, safer and far more enjoyable experience for both partners. And since pegging involves anal penetration, comfort and communication must be your first priority.
Understand basic of anal play
Whether you are receiver or giver, know how to anal play basically is important for safety. Clean your rectum is always the first step. Use water-base lubricant if your dildo is made of silicone. If you’re completely new to anal play, we recommend starting with anal training kits before moving on to a full-size dildo. Fully stretching the anal sphincter can significantly reduce the risk of injury.
Communication is essential
Talk about expectations, boundaries, and safe gestures like “slow down,” “stop,” or “keep going.” Go slowly, especially at the beginning, and check in often. Pegging isn’t about rushing—it’s about comfort, trust, and shared exploration.
Step by step guide
Put on the strap-on
How you put that on depends on what type you buy. Some might have a waist three-straps, while others may have leg straps. All the straps serve one purpose: to keep the dildo securely in place. If there isn’t much natural lubrication, using a condom can make the experience more comfortable. It reduces friction and also keeps the whole process more hygienic.
Penetration time
It’s time to lube that thing up and do the deed! Everyone’s sexual performance is different, but we can still offer some general advice. If you don’t have much strength, start with doggy style, as it mainly works your hips and legs. Plenty of lubrication and paying attention to sensitive zone can make the play much hotter and more enjoyable.
Not in the mood for partnered play? You could always use the strap-on for an exciting masturbation session — with or without your partner present. Don’t limit yourself; sex isn’t all about penetration anyway, and neither is using your strap-on.
Warm aftercare
Using a strap-on can feel a little overwhelming at first, and it’s completely normal for both the wearer and the receiver to feel vulnerable afterward. Take a moment to check in with each other—talk openly about what felt good, what didn’t, and any adjustments you’d like to try next time. Honest communication not only builds trust but also makes your future sessions even more satisfying.
Clean up the strap-on
Cleaning is not a easy step since they have two parts. Most of them are fabric, so you just need to detach the dildo and put it in warm water and add some mild detergent. Don’t do this with leather, latex or rubber harnesses.
Soap and warm water are an easy and effective way to clean a waterproof silicone dildo. For toys made of glass or stainless steel, you can place them in the dishwasher or simply boil them for a thorough clean—just make sure they don’t contain any vibrating components.
Common mistakes
Rushing the process
Anal and vaginal penetration both require time for the body to relax. Skipping warm-up, ignoring lubrication, or pushing too quickly can lead to discomfort or even injury. Remember: slow, steady, and well-lubed is the golden rule.
Too much pressure
Well everyone has their first time and first time is usually awkward. Listen to your partner after every practice. Learn more theory about how to use pelvic to save energy and find the right rhythm.
Start with big size
It’s better to start with something slimmer and shorter, ideally around 1–1.25 inches in diameter. You can always size up once your body adjusts.
FAQs
Q: Does using a strap-on affect my sexuality?
A: Not at all. Enjoying penetration—whether giving or receiving—doesn’t define your orientation or masculinity/femininity. It simply means you enjoy a particular type of stimulation.
Q: Can I use the same dildo for anal and vaginal penetration?
A: Not without cleaning it thoroughly first. To stay safe and avoid infections, switch condoms or wash the toy before changing areas.
Q:Do strap-ons work for people of all genders?
A:Absolutely. Strap-ons are inclusive and can be enjoyed by anyone—regardless of anatomy, gender identity, or relationship type.
Conclusion
Using a strap-on can be an exciting, empowering, and deeply intimate experience for couples. Whether you’re exploring a fantasy, experimenting with new sensations, or discovering the pleasures of role reversal, the key to a great strap-on session is preparation, communication, and patience. Start small, stay connected, and give yourselves the freedom to learn together. With the right mindset and tools, strap-on play can open the door to new levels of pleasure, trust, and connection in your relationship.
