Note*: This guide focuses on gay male sex positions, so we use he/him for clarity. We'll also be using terms like "giver" which pertains to the top and "receiver" for the bottom.
From classic vanilla to adventurous doggy style, you've probably tried plenty of positions before —but there're still endless combinations. In this blog, we'll introduce four trendy moves that guaranteed to turn up the heat and make your night memorable. Beyond the positions we've covered, you could explore new variations on your own. No fixed rule, comfort and passion are what matter most.
We respect individual sexual preferences, but we always recommend using a condom to prevent STIs and reduce the risk of injury. Now, buckle up and get ready to start this journey.
Try the missionary first
Beyond the position itself, the process also features teasing and stretching. A relaxed mind and loose muscles can help reduce pain during penetration. Kissing and oral sex are good ways to turn both the partners up. Introducing anal toys and penis vibrator provide a more intense sensation.
The missionary is one of the most common and simple positions so you can start with it as a adaptation and transition. Bending over, putting your leg up to sky and expose your anal maximally. After you're fully lubricated and comfortable with the sensation, you can move on to other positions.
Bear hug sex position
How
The receiving partner stands with one leg lifted and bent, while the giving partner enters from behind. The giver can hold their partner's raised ankle or wrap their arms around their body. Either way, staying close and keeping a firm, supportive grip helps maintain balance and intimacy.
If the giver sets the pace, you can simply relax into his rhythm and enjoy the ride. Prefer to take charge or move as a team? Sync your movements and find the motion that feels best for both of you.
Why
With the bear hug, the giver has a wide range of movement, while the receiver can be easily "controlled". A tight, close back hug makes the atmosphere sexier. Standing up position add a bit novelty for couples who usually having sex in bed.
What's more, standing up while penetration from behind provides more direct and stranger stimulation to the P-spot. The giver can also tease and tend to the receiver's penis, adding extra pleasure.
Bonus tips
Why not holding the hips and waist while your finger is rounded touching the receiver's nipple? Take full advantages of your hands, you can even spank the hips if both of you agree.
Since the giver moves from behind, you have enough space to use vibrators, nipple clamps or even males masturbators. And givers can also use anal toys to intensify anal joy. That's it, sex toys exist to enhance pleasure, so why not bring them into your penetration?
Captain sex position
How
The captain sex position usually performed on a sturdy surface — not too tall or too short. The ideal angle is when the receiver's pelvis lines up with the giver's thigh or penis.
Sturdy chair or bench, edge of a firm bed or countertop that safe and flat could all become appropriate choices. Don't forget to check the stability of the chosen surface. Make sure it's neither rough nor slippery.
The receiver lies back and opens his legs, while the giver stands with both feet — or one foot placed on the surface. The giver holds the receiver's ankles as if gripping a steering wheel. The penetrating partner stands strong, with the raised leg increasing depth, angle, and control.
Why
This posture creates a unique power dynamic, offering greater intimacy, eye contact, and physical intensity. This position naturally place the giver at a commanding and grounded role like a captain. This wide-open position looks incredibly hot and adds a delicious kind of tension that cranks up the passion. And when you switch to standing moves, you'll also fire up your abs and back, giving your core a nice little workout over time.
Bonus tips
Place a thick, soft blanket on the surface to reduce pressure on the receiver's back and tailbone. Trying different angles and paces is an effective way to discover what feels most exciting. Warm up the anal and stretch thighs to avoid cramps. If you are open to introduce restraints, you will leave both hands free to caress the receiver's genital.
Full-nelson sex position
How
This position needs a fair amount of strength and flexibility. If your are fond of porn you might have seen this before. Start in reverse cowboy position, but from here the receiving partner, who is on top, lies back and puts their legs up to create a V shape. Then the giver need to hold the receiver's thighs and keep the legs open.
The upgraded version needs the giver to wrap his arms around the top of the receiver's legs, holding them back with their elbows and locking the fingers behind the top person's neck. This position is definitely not for everyone and is best suited for the more energetic among us.
Why
Some sexperts even describe this position as "BDSM for beginners," since the full nelson can feel like a slightly hardcore, kinky posture. And it's also good to great prostate stimulation. With the receiver's entire body supported by their partner, any tension can make them feel even more sensitive. At the same time, the giver will experience stronger squeeze and suction.
Warning
The full nelson is difficult to master as it requires a lot of stamina and core strength. It is important that the penetrating partner must take extreme care not to push too hard on their partner's neck. If you're worried about controlling the pressure, it's best to hold their thighs rather than their neck.
Bonus tips:
If the full nelson isn't spicy enough for you then you can also change things up. Lessen the penetrative intensity, and add some balls and penis stimulation using cock ring or penis vibrator. If you've practiced edging or ejaculation control before, you can try featuring those techniques here as well.
What's important
· Enough foreplay time
You would like to jump to the business as soon as possible, but a enough foreplay time is an important precondition. Kissing and teasing can release large amounts of dopamine and oxytocin, helping reduce tension and increase the body’s sensitivity. A little dirty talk also makes you blush and your heart race. Try more intimacy moves and build up a smooth transition to the main event.
· Safety is the first principle
Having sex with condoms is the most responsible thing to both of you partners. Condoms, when used correctly and consistently, are among the most effective method of preventing most sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including HIV. Wearing a condom can help prevent your body from getting a temperature after semen contact. Make sure to stretch adequately before trying more challenging positions.
· Always use lube
When doing anal sex, using lubricant is non-negotiable. since anal can not lubricate itself. Lube reduces friction and makes penetration smoother. Without it, both partners could even get tears or injuries, which raises the risk of infections.
If you don't use any silicone sex toys, it's better to use silicone-based lubricant. Unlike water-based lube, silicone-based lube don’t dry out easily when exposed to air for a long time. This reduces the need for reapplying and allows for a more immersive sexual experience.
· Boost with sex toys
Not just during foreplay—some positions leave enough space to use sex toys. Let your imagination run wild. We have a complete male sex toys guide for you to choose the right products. The givers could also use anal toys to add stimulation—there's no limit.
Before you go
No matter what moves you try, we hope you can feel passion during sex. Communicating openly helps you reflect on your experiences and makes future encounters more harmonious.
Finally, Sohimi is always committed to providing you with professional products and pleasure. If you have stories or positions you’d like to share, feel free to send them to our email: ziggy@sohimi.com
