Sohimi frequently receives questions like, "Why does my anus hurt the first time I use an anal vibrator?"
Don't Rush When Using an Anal Vibrator
Except for specific cases like SM enthusiasts or those who enjoy spicy food, most people try to avoid pain and do not find it pleasurable. When you feel pain while using an anal vibrator, your body is signaling to your brain that something is wrong. At the very least, it's warning you that you might be doing something incorrectly and that your anus is being harmed. Excluding medical conditions such as hemorrhoids, anal pain mainly results from mucosal abrasions and sphincter resistance. The former is relatively easy to address, but the latter is more challenging to manage.
Since the rectum does not secrete a large amount of mucus for lubrication, the delicate mucosal walls can easily suffer abrasions during thrusting motions. As for sphincter resistance, it involves the internal anal sphincter. The external sphincter is controlled by the brain’s central nervous system, allowing voluntary contraction and relaxation. However, the internal sphincter is governed by the autonomic nervous system and reacts reflexively to stimuli, independent of conscious control. Similar reflexive responses include knee-jerk reactions, goosebumps, and pupil dilation.
Additionally, the internal anal sphincter can be deceptive! It relaxes to allow stool to pass but contracts forcefully when foreign objects are inserted, causing discomfort. Inserting an object larger than its normal relaxation diameter can result in forced expansion pain and may even cause anal fissures, leading to severe pain.
We have also observed that the internal sphincter's resistance is significantly lower when experiencing anal stimulation for the first time. This suggests that psychological tension also contributes to sphincter contraction. Therefore, expanding the sphincter’s natural opening diameter and preventing its contraction are fundamental to reducing pain. The human body has the potential for adaptation—just as prolonged exposure to different focal lengths leads to nearsightedness or farsightedness, the anus can also undergo changes. Not all of these changes are negative.
The diameter of the anus can be physically altered. The most direct method is to gradually increase the size of the inserted anal vibrator over time, expanding the passage diameter. This does not conflict with Kegel exercises, which strengthen the external sphincter, whereas stretching techniques increase the internal sphincter’s accommodating size.
The best short-term dilation method is using fingers, as they are flexible and can adjust angles based on awareness, reducing injury risk.
Step-by-Step Guide for Comfortable Anal Play
Step1: Press Down on the Perianal Muscles
Clean the anus in advance.
Apply a generous amount of lubricant to the anus and index finger.
Bend the finger and press down on the perianal muscles for 5 seconds.
Do not insert the finger yet.
Step2: Press Up on the Perianal Muscles
Bend the index finger in the opposite direction.
Use the fingernail side to press the upper perianal area for 5 seconds.
Repeat steps 1 and 2 until the anus slightly relaxes.
Step3: Initial Insertion and Gentle Stroking
Trim and smooth fingernails beforehand.
With the fingertip facing upward (toward the stomach), insert the finger up to the first knuckle.
Lightly stroke the internal sphincter in a circular motion for 30-45 seconds.
Observe your partner’s body language and extend the duration if needed.
Step4: Insert Deeper and Massage Up and Down
Slowly insert the finger up to the second knuckle.
Bend the first knuckle and press the walls up and down.
Start slowly, then gradually increase speed while observing your partner's reaction.
Step5: Apply Small Anal Vibrations with the Finger
Once your partner is accustomed to the previous motion, introduce slight vibrations.
Start with small movements and gradually increase speed until they feel a tingling sensation.
Step6: Introduce a Gentle Thrusting Motion
Slowly pull out the finger by one knuckle, then reinsert.
Continue this motion while providing verbal reassurance.
Step7: Gradually Add Another Finger
If your partner is fully comfortable, increase the diameter by inserting a second finger.
Follow the same steps, moving even more gently and slowly.
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Regardless of technique, some individuals will still experience discomfort that cannot be resolved by dilation alone. Not everyone is suited for anal play. Pain during sex is not uncommon, whether in vaginal or anal intercourse. In many cases, a lack of proper sexual education is to blame. However, a small percentage of people have heightened pain perception, making it difficult to reduce discomfort through conventional means.
Current research suggests that solutions include improving foreplay techniques, using lubrication, practicing dilation, and fostering relaxation. In rare cases, medication is used. However, if you decide to proceed despite discomfort, always prioritize lubrication, dilation, and relaxation to avoid physical injury or infection.
Everyone has their own optimal way of using a butt plug. Explore, but don’t force it—that’s the best way to protect yourself!
