I Found Out That My Friend Was Secretly Using Sex Toys

How Did I Found It?

Background

My friend and I have known each other for ten years, and we knew each other in the first year of junior school. It has been two years since we graduated from university, and we are also living together for renting. The relationship between us is always good. Although we have had some small quarrels before, we will soon get back to each other and give mutual support, just like Max and Caroline in Two Broke Girls. 

I work in real estate sales, and my friend has recently resigned and is looking for a new job. Since I needed to go home and pick up the documents yesterday afternoon, I didn't tell my friend about it. When I got home, TV talked in the bedroom, so I felt that my friend was relaxing at home. We always enter each other's room from time to time, because our relationship is really good.

When I entered my friend’s room today, I found that she was sleeping and her bedside drawer was not closed. When I walked over and closed it for her, I found a dildo inside. I was a little shocked because I never think about my friend's masturbation and dildo, and she also has a boyfriend who has been seeing for 4 years, and I never think anyone with a partner will use these toys anymore. Now, I don't know how to face her. Shall we talk about this topic?

Jessie 

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Hi Jessie, we have received your letter and understand your troubles. Here are two testers would like to say something for you.

Sex Toys Do No Harm To Relationship

At the age of lack of passion, the sex toys are the lubricant of a sex life between men and women, and the importance is unquestionable. The climax can be achieved with tools, and modern people are beginning to treat themselves positively, but will the hot sales of sex toys cause some obstacles to the relationship in the long run? If you can rely on tools to achieve orgasm, will the relationship between partners will be hurt? However, there are many opinions. Some people say it will cause competition, and some people say they don't care, because if using tools can increase the fun and improve quality, why not do it? Having sex is the best way to express mutual love between the couples. 

However, due to the difference in the physiological structure of men and women, sometimes women can't feel comfortable in positions. It feels that they need sex toys to assist them in sex. At now our society is no longer the traditional conservative era of suppressing human nature, and everyone has the right to pursue sexual happiness. Toys are only toys to serve people. We must make good use of such tools to bring more differences to all the singles or couples. The experience of life improves the taste of life and the satisfaction of sexual life. Sex toys bring more physiological stimulation, no matter how many modes, how smart, and how scientific the design is, they can never replace the intimacy, trust, and commitment between partners. So whether you are a man or a woman, please don't think of using sex toys as a very serious matter. Intercourse is an important part of intimacy, but it is clear that two people are together for more than just the purpose of having sex.

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In fact, it is quite common for most people who have sex toys like your friends. Many women are worried about their partner's misunderstanding, so they secretly buy toys for private use. They think that let the other partner know they are using sex toys will hurt their self-esteem. Indeed, many men are competitors or have a certain degree of resistance to sex toys, worrying that they are not so important when women have toys. Actually, this interesting idea is all due to misunderstandings caused by poor communication, in fact, a considerable part of female sex toys purchasers are from men, which shows that men's acceptance of female sex toys is very high. So if your friend can communicate more with your partner, buy and use toys together, I believe most men are still happy to do it. If you have some misunderstandings about toys, such as worrying about addiction, making people’s private parts insensitive, etc., you can look at the relevant medical explanations. You can also talk to your friends about this topic of sex. You have known each other for ten years, and you will be good friends for a lifetime. Like what you said, Max and Caroline opened up their hearts after discovering that each other had sex toys. Chatting will not do any harm to their friendship. 

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Everyone Has Sexual Freedom 

Using sex toys is a kind of sexual freedom, and both men and women should feel happy for it.

I am a professional sex toy assessor. After I became an evaluator, I didn't tell my parents that they probably couldn't understand it. But my friends all know my job and support me. My current boyfriend also met after I became a tester, and he is very supportive of my work. I often try out some new toys with him. He sometimes joked that he was my tester and felt like I was squeezing him. 

Almost everyone will specialize in the profession of sex toy assessor. I think that's because everyone specializes in sex. For me, this business is not much different from beauty bloggers and mobile phone reviewers. It is the same as a comprehensive introduction to a certain product to people in need. Beauty bloggers are for beauty; and I, for everyone's sex life, just like that.

The difference is that because everyone has not received sex education since childhood, the job of a sex toy tester is to introduce products on the one hand and various basic sex knowledge on the other hand. 

For example, beauty bloggers never need to explain to everyone what is lipstick, what is the foundation, and which parts to use; but I have explained to fans countless times the difference between emergency contraceptives and conventional contraceptives in my career for so many years. Where the vagina/urethra is, no matter how many times we explain it, some people will always be confused. So many times we think that most people may not have reached the stage of using sex toys. Their first step should be to make up for the missing sex education.

Although the current society is more advanced than the previous feudal society in technology, people are still conservative. Everyone avoids talking about sex nowadays, so once someone starts talking about sex, no matter whether what they talk about is beneficial or not, everyone will always look at him/her with weird eyes. But because we dare not talk about sex, and because of the lack of sex education, we have caused many unnecessary tragedies, so I feel that I have to keep doing this until one day no one don’t know the basic sex education, If someone feels happy for pursuing sexual pleasure, then I will feel very proud. Sex is not a shame, and neither are the sex toys.

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Enjoy Yourselves

Sexual desire is human instinct, and it can turn to be a complex monster, and few people really understand it. The biggest challenge is that there are fundamental differences between the sexes. Men experience stronger desires than women. They fantasize about sex more frequently, do DIY more frequently, and are less troubled by low desires. This is related to both physiological and social factors. Physiologically, men’s physical excitement and desire are closely linked, and they provide strong feedback to each other. Size and orgasm are closely linked. The connection between female body excitement and desire is relatively weak, and the experience of orgasm is not as direct and rough as the male. In terms of sexual arousal, due to social factors, most women still cannot  fully feel their bodies and desires like most men. Some people may even think that women are encouraged to suppress their desires. Sex toys can bring a lot of fun. 

There are many friends like Jessie, who have the same troubles. They will be troubled by the same problems, and they may also be thinking about other problems, such as whether there are sex toys that are not discovered, or how to hide sex toys from others. 

For men, we would recommend Stretchy Erection Cock Ring. Such unpretentious, it is just like a simple ring.

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And for women, Sohimi ROSE Clit Sucker seems the best choice because it is lotus-shaped. Its safe appearance, so romantic and fresh and lovely, even if it is placed on a table or other conspicuous place, it will not make people see that it is a sex toy at a glance.  

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Where Can Sex Toys Be Hidden?  

In addition, we also have collected dozens of suggestions from lovely testers and customers, which are now summarized in the following lists:

1. Buy a big bag, put it in the secret, and carry it with you every day

2. In the pillow

3. The locked suitcase

4. Put it together with the perm

5. Buy a rag doll and stuff it in, or a ceramic doll and stuff it in

6. Put it inside the plush doll

7. Put it in the bucket for badminton

8. Take the tape to the back of the bed (some testers think it is the most creative one)

9. Hide it inside the computer system unit

10. In the makeup box, as the most dangerous place is the safest

11. Put the underwear in the drawer or box, the family will never look through these

12. In the black painting tube for painting, there is also a strap, which is convenient for home travel

14. Put it out of your mother's reach, such as the top of the cabinet

15. Uh, I put it in my socks and put it in the drawer where I put the socks. It doesn’t matter if I turn it over, everyone is an adult

16. Put it in a vase. The vase must be opaque. Not commonly used...

17. Stuffed into a bag that you don't use often, women always have more bags, and no one will go through it when you put it in.

18. Buy that little pink pig (Thank you for reminding! You guys don’t know the little pink pig and you can check the link here, it’s really pink and hidden)

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19. Summer is here, those thicker quilts are not used anymore. They are stuffed into the cupboard. You put the stick into the quilt and you will never find it.

20. Hide in the toilet tank, wrap it with plastic wrap and then tie it with tape

21. Find a shoe box, put it on the bottom layer of the shoe box, and then put a pair of cotton tow the bag and put it on top, it is proper (this is also excellent)

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